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Scenario 1
Boundaries
Sophie and James have been going out for a while, and things might be going to the next level, but James isn't sure whether he's ready.
Sophie
HEAR MY SIDE OF THE STORY
James
HEAR MY SIDE OF THE STORY
NOW CHOOSE WHERE THE STORY GOES...
1
Just see what happens.
PLAY VIDEO
2
Have sex, even though you're not ready.
PLAY VIDEO
3
Act earlier: set your boundaries.
PLAY VIDEO
LEARN MORE...
CHOOSE AGAIN...
If you have been affected by any of the issues raised in these videos, see the Useful Info section for organisations that may be able to provide help and advice.

It can feel like there is a lot of pressure to have sex, especially when you are at a certain age and in a relationship. We assume that all guys must be up for it, and girls get caught in the double standard of being labelled either a slapper or frigid! Sex can – and should be – fun, but only if you are doing it because you want to not because you feel like you have to.

 

There is nothing wrong with choosing to have sex, but it should be your choice – no one else’s.

 

Often we find it hard to talk to our partners about what we like or are ready for – instead sex just kind of happens. Take control, think about what you are ready to do and learn to talk to your partner so you know what they are ready to do too.

 

To find out more visit Respect Yourself and check out the pages on Negotiating Sex, Attitudes to Sex and the Are You Ready checklist.